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Phoebe Freer's avatar

Thank you, Anita. 💜

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Jamie Millard's avatar

Phoebe. I have no words. Thank you for being vulnerable here. Your poetry is a portal to healing. In the spaces between the words I can feel your journey to Freer. I look forward to hearing the rest of the story. The world didn’t end. You didn’t let it. Bless you 🙏❤️

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Tania Tyler 🌿's avatar

Different circumstance but your beginning totally resonated with me. Mine was a serious domestic that culminated October 2012. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. And synchronistically, the post I published on Thursday started with the end of the Mayan calendar and that we are still here. I didn't share my events, only a hint as a backdrop for my topic. <hugs>

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Phoebe Freer's avatar

Thanks for sharing. There do seem to be a lot of people who went through a life transforming event in 2012. I will have a read of your piece. 💜

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Jacqui McGinn's avatar

What an awful experience to go through. I can only imagine the turmoil of emotions and thoughts that must come with finding that out. Such a unique angle to approach a hard topic through and helps us understand the ramifications of it for everyone.

I hope writing and sharing it brought a deeper layer of healing for you. <3

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Phoebe Freer's avatar

Thank you Jacqui. I generally like to spread positivity with my words so I wasn't entirely comfortable sharing this, but I think it is important to share honestly too. Perhaps it will help someone.

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Jacqui McGinn's avatar

I think being truthful does spread positivity. Anything that helps us navigate what's been kept in the shadows or helps us feel less alone in the shadows is a positive bringing light to darkness. I can understand it feeling uncomfortable too.

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Phoebe Freer's avatar

I agree Jacqui. Thank you.

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Katie's avatar

Such a courageous and well written share. I felt lighter on your behalf for reading it and the experience of going through trauma resonated with me even though our experiences are different. I loved his paragraph. It really gives hope and motivation to any of your readers going through trauma.

I also knew nothing yet of the healing that would flow, nor the wonder and miracles that would come, seemingly out of nowhere, in the years to come.

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Phoebe Freer's avatar

Thank you for your encouragement. Yes, I definitely didn't want to drag people down with my share, so I'm glad that you picked up on that paragraph. I plan to expand on those things in a future post. 💜

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Ane's avatar

Dear Phoebe. How courageous to share this story. Thank you. It is so important 💗

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Lori Ann Bloomfield's avatar

Phoebe, I am in awe of your bravery and your grace, and especially your desire to help others heal through writing. You truly are an alchemist. Deep bow and much love to you and your family.

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Phoebe Freer's avatar

Lori Ann, thank you! I deeply appreciate your kind and encouraging words. 💜

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Beth Kempton's avatar

Bravery in every line. What a thing to have lived through - for all of you. And here you are, twelve years on - a full cycle of life in the Chinese Zodiac no less - finally able to release it onto the page.

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Phoebe Freer's avatar

Thanks for the encouragement Beth. I hadn't thought of the zodiac connection, but there it is - 12 years. 💜

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pause2ponder's avatar

As a mother, my heart was aching for you and your children as I read this . Freer you are...

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Phoebe Freer's avatar

Thank you. 💜

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Cassie Wilkins's avatar

This was a heart-hitting and hard-hitting read. Beautifully articulated, though. I love how you intersperse the prose with your poems and manage to say so much in those with fewer words. I'm also grateful that you shared that your relationship with your daughter is better, now. What a heartbreaking situation for you all. Sending so much love 💜

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Phoebe Freer's avatar

Thank you, Cassie. Your words are very encouraging. 🧡

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Notes from the Dragon's Nest's avatar

Phoebe,

Very brave of you to write this ~ all of it! Thank you for writing about your dark times! I'm sure there is at least one reader who feels much less alone now...and that gives life-saving hope.

So glad you & your children found support for your healing journeys and that your relationship with all of them us positive now. ✨️

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Phoebe Freer's avatar

Thank you for the encouragement. I guess we always hope our words find their way to the people who most need them. 💜

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Terje Äkke's avatar

To be honest and vulnerable to share the dark life-changing experience is an act of bravery. Thank you for trusting the readers.

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The Sea in Me    (Síodhna)'s avatar

My heart reading this. So sorry this tyrant deceived and abused you all.

Look, just look how far you've come. Powerful writing. Keep going Phoebe. This is important, this is healing.

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Aoibhín's avatar

Thank you Phoebe. Your honesty in your writing is so powerful. It hurts to read so I cannot imagine how much it must have hurt to live through... The title of this post drew me in because I thought "oh, someone else whose life tipped upside down." Because in some strange way, at some, I think we all have a day where what we always believed is no longer true. PS I love your mask of truth, it reminds me of a super-hero suit. Still you, but braver, more you..

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Phoebe Freer's avatar

Thank you for your encouraging comments. Yes, I agree. We all have things that turn our lives upside down - different yet the same. 💜

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Geraldine Claudel's avatar

Thank you, Phoebe, for sharing such a dreadful shift in your life. The very human way you wrote it brought me hope and perspective about my shifting event which, though violent and traumatic, was nothing compared to what you experienced, a mere hurting stop on the wrong path. I feel lucky and protected for it could have been so much worse for me. Lots of love.

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Phoebe Freer's avatar

Thanks for sharing, Geraldine. Don't underestimate the impact of what you experienced. I'm glad you are finding a way to move beyond it though. All the best with your healing process. 🧡

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Shell Norman's avatar

You are a freer bright light.

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